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I would imagine that like me you too get sent inspirational emails. I was fortunate enough to have been sent the following from many of my readers. As I read it my heart is pulled in many directions and I can see it from every angle. I decided to share this with you because as a mother I needed the reassurance that I aren’t as bad as I sometimes appear to be, if you get my drift.
Someday when my children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will
tell them, as my Mean Mum told me: I loved you
enough . . . to ask where you were going, with whom,
and what time you would be home.I loved you enough to be silent and let you
discover that your new best friend was a creep.
while you cleaned your room, a job that should have taken 15 minutes.
disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children must
learn that their parents aren’t perfect.
responsibility for your actions even when the
penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
Why is it that some people have trouble accepting acts of kindness?
Why is it that some people have trouble accepting acts of kindness?
We all like to be appreciated, so why is it that some people have trouble accepting acts of kindness?
I recently witnessed a situation where a client had spent quite some time bitching about being taken for granted, she felt like she was the household slave to her husband and children, with a similar belief in her working environment. I was fortunate enough to witness one of her children say to her “Mum, you’re the best, I love you so much.” To which she immediately responded “What do you want?” sound familiar…….?
What is it that makes people so cynical?
· Is it the way you are bought up?
· Is it a reflection of your values and belief system?
· Is it that you are so busy that you don’t have the time to get to know people on a personal level before they are perceived and then judged?
· Or is it that you just don’t care about anyone but yourself?
If truth be known it is probably a combination of all the above. Should it be like that NO WAY? What can you do about it? There are lots of things you can do to change the way you react, but first you have to understand why you do what you do.
It is all in the way that you accept yourself. If you do not believe in yourself or believe that you are not worthy of thanks, then of course when someone gives you a compliment you would fob it off or be suspicious of their motives.
Grab a pen, paper and a cuppa and take a moment to write down the answers to these questions, be brutally honest with yourself:
· Am I aware that I react with suspicion when someone pays me a compliment?
· What makes me react this way?
· How long has this been happening?
· When did I first decide I was going to react in this way?
· What is this choice costing me?
· How would I like to react instead?
· What can I do to make the change?
· What would my life look like when I sincerely accepted acts of kindness?
When you have a sense of certainty about who you are and what you stand for, the decisions you make as a result of the choices presented to you take on an entirely different perspective. This is where your values come into consideration. I will discuss values in another article.
Awareness is the first step to change, being aware that you are ‘doing that old thing’. Once you acknowledge that you are doing a particular process the easier it becomes in determining why you do it, because your uncertainty about what is important to you will lead you to have feelings of doubt about your self-worth. Until you change this belief you will not be able to experience a profound level of fulfilment in your life.
Your Destiny Unfolds with
Rodney & Vicki Williams
Reason, Season or Lifetime
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
or to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
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this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
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People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
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Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away.
Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
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When people come into your life for a SEASON,
it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,
the season eventually ends.
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LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being part of my life.
Friends come into your life for a reason
Not sure what part of the world you are in when reading this article but for those of you in Melbourne it is getting cold, the start of winter is upon us. I get pretty complacent at the beginning of each season, I’m sceptical of the weather forecast. Well I payed dearly yesterday, let me explain….. (more…)
How to Overcome Fears and Phobias
I was once told that you are born with two fears, the fear of loud noises and the fear of falling.
I have also been told that you are born with no fears and that all fears are learned so therefore can be unlearned. I will let you come to your own conclusion.
The point I want to make is that I firmly believe that all fears and phobias can be overcome very easily. Rodney is living proof of just how easy it is to rid fears and phobias from your life once and for all. (more…)
Laparoscopic Gastric Banding – My Transformation
Laparoscopic Gastric Banding – My Transformation
I was discharged from hospital at 9.30am armed with my discharge information from Mr Nottle and Digesic for pain relief. I wasn’t in any pain as such, but I felt uncomfortable.
I stopped off on the way home to pick up some DVD’s to watch in the preparation for my two weeks of rest and relaxation that is essential for anyone recovering from surgery. It is amazing just what surgery and anaesthetic does to your body.
I was fortunate that my husband Rodney had two weeks off work to look after me; my children were not going to be in need of my services, being adults they can look after themselves, so I only had to concentrate on getting myself better. I wasn’t eating anything for three weeks so Rodney only had to cook for himself and prepare me some soup.
The first problem I encountered was …… (more…)
Determined to Succeed
Determined to Succeed
Let’s forget the New Years Eve resolutions because they generally don’t last longer than a
month.
What I want to focus on are the goals that you set at the start of every year that set the
benchmark for how you want your personal, career and business life to unfold. If these
goals are not planned, structured and set in the correct format then you are not
necessarily setting yourself up to fail, but you are putting obstacles out there that may
not need to be there. To get the format correct and take everything into consideration
To get the format correct and take everything into consideration follow our guideline click here.
Now that you have your goals underway, are there any other obstacles that may hold you back
from achieving the goals you have set? Take a good look within, and be really honest with
yourself, do you need to work on any limiting beliefs or fears? Seek help to assist you in
overcoming these once and for all.
Life is not meant to be an easy ride, so you can expect to have hiccups along the way, what
you need to be conscious of is that you don’t get weighed down or diverted as you manoeuvre
through life. It’s these challenges that give you the internal growth that you need to
survive, coupled with the determination to keep on going.
Nick Vujicic was born with no limbs, when you watch this clip I am sure you will be as
amazed as I was at just how determination can be a catalyst for achieving everything you
aspire to be, do or have in your life.
I have chosen to bookmark this video clip and watch it every time I get to a stage when I
become complacent with life, when I believe that I am coasting through life and not
challenging myself to become even more successful. I hope you will as well.
Your Destiny Unfolds
With Rodney & Vicki
Internal Representational System
Internal Representational System
We are all unique in the way we communicate. Even knowing this, some people still have trouble understanding why their message is misunderstood. It doesn’t matter what you do for a living, everyone communicates. It is how you communicate that determines the quality of your business, career and life.
I am going to show you a very valuable technique that, when practiced and implemented into your life, will increase your communication skills considerably. (more…)
Poor Communication is not a Disability
Poor Communication is not a Disability
Many of my clients say they are no good at communicating. I challenge them to step out of their comfort zone and try different approaches to improve their communication skills.
After establishing why they consider they are not effective communicators, we set about planning our strategy for creating change.
In many instances I find that they have a limiting belief in themselves that holds them back. If I was to determine the most common limiting belief associated with poor communication skills, it would be “I’m not good enough”, or “I am afraid of rejection”. Feeling rejected is extremely common and when experienced on a regular basis can cause self-doubt and a lack of self-esteem, which is very destructive.
The Wheel of Life, the film
The Wheel of Life, the film
I have just seen a new documentary film on health, wellness, spirituality and personal development called “The Wheel Of Life” that I just had to tell you about.
If you’ve seen “The Secret” or “What The Bleep”, you’ll love “The Wheel Of Life” (and if you haven’t, I’m sure you’ll still enjoy it!)
Here’s where the trailer has just been posted click here
After you’ve watched the trailer, make sure you sign up to gain access to 8 “hidden” content videos on each segment of “The Wheel Of Life”. Once you sign up, you will be sent the link to a new video every day.