Internal Representational System

We are all unique in the way we communicate.  Even knowing this, some people still have trouble understanding why their message is misunderstood.   It doesn’t matter what you do for a living, everyone communicates.  It is how you communicate that determines the quality of your business, career and life.

I am going to show you a very valuable technique that, when practiced and implemented into your life, will increase your communication skills considerably.  (more…)

Laparoscopic Gastric Banding – My Choice

My journey began a long time ago.  I had intended it to be a solitary journey because I wasn’t comfortable with people knowing that I had undergone Laparoscopic Gastric Banding. A select number of people were privy to this information and were eagerly awaiting my transformation and I was happy with that.  Recently though people have been asking questions and I am now ready to talk to them, to answer their questions and as a result I have been made aware that lots of people out there in cyberspace are interested enough to hear my story and share my journey, so here goes.

My catalyst for change came about three years ago when I was working in a surgical ward of a wonderful hospital and I started meeting patients coming in for Laparoscopic Gastric Banding.  I didn’t know much about the procedure but I was thankful that I worked with an amazing team of Nurses and Doctors who shared their knowledge with me, so I started a quest.  Every patient that came in I would ask their permission to share their story about why they had decided to have this procedure, after all it is a surgical procedure and all surgery comes with risk of complications.  When I stopped working in that hospital I had gained all the knowledge I needed to know that this procedure was what I wanted and needed to have.  I just had two problems to overcome. 

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Mixed Messages Create Frustration

How often have you asked someone to do something only to find that you have mixed messages and the task is not carried out as you wanted?  What happens then?  In a lot of instances people get really annoyed and as time progresses anger grows to the stage of frustration and sometimes a verbal response causes more problems.

If you are not getting the outcome you have asked for, you may need to look at how you are communicating your message.  You should look at:

·         The tone of your voice

·         The words you use

·         The clarity of your message

·         Do you use open or closed questions?

·         Do you generate a flow of conversation?

If you are not using some or all of those techniques then you may find that you have not giving enough information for the respondent to carry out the task.

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Laparoscopic Gastric Banding – My History

To understand me and why I am where I am in my journey of life, I feel obliged to share my story, my history so to speak.  So that you can gain an insight into why I made the decision to have Laparoscopic Gastric Banding done.

I have been large for as long as I can remember.  As I grew up I was always the largest in my peer groups, not overly large, in fact if truth be known I wasn’t large way back then but because my friends were paper thin I perceived myself to be large.  I ate a healthy diet (there was no junk food during my childhood) in fact I was not introduced to McDonalds until I was about 22 and thankfully I didn’t like the taste. 

During my teens I developed quicker and became more rounded than my peers and that weighed very heavily on my conscious.  This is when I started my battle to lose weight.  So although believing that I was overweight back then, my weight problems became a reality in my early 30’s after I had my children.  Then became the endless battle to shed those extra kilos. 

I began a process where I would start a diet (whatever the fad was at the time) and I would give it 90% sometimes I would lose a few kilos, sometimes I wouldn’t lose anything.  What I did notice was that I ran a strategy. I would jump in boots and all and with a gung ho attitude I would follow the diet and if I didn’t see any results quickly then I would lose heart and sabotage all my efforts.  Then I would beat myself up with a string of negative self talk.  You may have heard these sayings before I believe they are quite common.  Things like “I knew you couldn’t do it”, “You loser”, “You are fat and pathetic”, “Look at yourself, who could possibly like you”.  It pretty much stands to reason that as a result of all that negative self talk that I would hate myself and of course I had to talk myself into believing it. 

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Poor Communication is not a Disability 

Many of my clients say they are no good at communicating.  I challenge them to step out of their comfort zone and try different approaches to improve their communication skills.

After establishing why they consider they are not effective communicators, we set about planning our strategy for creating change.

In many instances I find that they have a limiting belief in themselves that holds them back.  If I was to determine the most common limiting belief associated with poor communication skills, it would be “I’m not good enough”, or “I am afraid of rejection”.  Feeling rejected is extremely common and when experienced on a regular basis can cause self-doubt and a lack of self-esteem, which is very destructive.

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The Wheel of Life, the film

I have just seen a new documentary film on health, wellness, spirituality and personal development called “The Wheel Of Life” that I just had to tell you about.

If you’ve seen “The Secret” or “What The Bleep”, you’ll love “The Wheel Of Life” (and if you haven’t, I’m sure you’ll still enjoy it!)
 
Here’s where the trailer has just been posted click here

After you’ve watched the trailer, make sure you sign up to gain access to 8 “hidden” content videos on each segment of “The Wheel Of Life”.  Once you sign up, you will be sent the link to a new video every day.

The Roadmap To Become A Blogger

Released! New report reveals tested roadmap for blogging success…

Yaro Starak and Gideon Shalwick from
BecomeABlogger.com have finally released their highly anticipated new report. It’s called…

“The Roadmap To Become A Blogger”

Or simply…”The Roadmap”

If you’re ready to claim your own copy now, just go here  (it doesn’t cost a thing):

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Giving back to Society

I am not sure about you, but I always knew there were people out there doing really great things for the community, the country and the world.  I had never met any of them, but I would see them working tirelessly to ensure our lives and homes were protected at any cost. Until recently I didn’t give them much thought.  I suppose that was extremely selfish on my part.  I would donate money to the current world crisis and that was pretty much it as far as I was concerned.  But there is a lot more to it.   

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Balance in Life

When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. (more…)